Yesterday I didn’t get much done on the house because I had to check in on my application at the office of short-term rentals. Turns out no one has even been assigned to my application yet (60+ days after submitting it). It’s a good thing you can host people while you’re waiting to be approved.
Today I worked mostly in the garage, which is absolutely disgusting. The level of grime I’m willing to live with is… shameful. My mother is an impeccably clean and neat person; the fact that she raised someone who falls so completely on the other side of the spectrum is… disappointing. I wish I were more like her.
I’m currently deep in the “messier before neater” phase, which is a tough slog. (My husband keeps reminding me “it’s always darkest before the dawn,” which I know is too dramatic but still seems fitting. 😉 I know it will get better, but climbing my way out of this particular valley is especially challenging for me, because what’s left out is the stuff I’m not quite sure what to do with, and my ADHD makes that kind of mess really hard for me to tackle. My mom is coming again tomorrow and I hope she can keep my focused and on task so I don’t end up puttering around, just moving things from one spot to another without ever finding them a home.
Maybe at some point I should just put it all in a bag and pitch it. Wouldn’t that be liberating?
Have to head to bed now but wanted to get something up. Better late and never.
I have about 10 boxes from our move in May 2017 that I have never unpacked, simply because I am unsure what to do with their contents. So I definitely relate with you on that point!
It’s so great that you have someone neat and organized like your mother to help you out. My mother is a bigger slob than I am, and she lives in another state most of the year, so I have no assistance from her on these tasks. (My BFF will occasionally come up and help me, but she is busy with her own life, often working weekends, too.)
It’s easy to let clutter and mess creep up on you when you are very busy and focused (rightly so!) on other, more important things.
Glad your mom can come back. Glad you understand that it literally is harder for you than for many other people when facing chaos messes. You would never shame me or any one else for ADD issues; be equally kind to you.
I think teaching our children and grand children to be kind to themselves is really important and is best taught through modeling behaviors. Not excusing, but explaining both the issue and how you try to cope with it. It also helps teach to name the emotions and get your kids naming theirs as well as reminding and naming to you how you cope and how they cope with their issues. Coping mechanisms are helpful not shameful to need.
Sending huge support to you and your projects.