Inevitable Failure
I have been entertaining a terrifying thought of late: What if I can’t be the person, or parent, I expect myself to be? What if it is simply, and inexorab...
Author: noemikjames
The Bill Has Come Due
{More on loneliness to come next week. Thank you all for your insightful comments on those posts.} It feels sometimes like the stakes are higher since I had kid...
Loneliness {Part 2}
In her book Lonely: Learning to Live with Solitude, Emily White categorizes loneliness in four ways. On one axis are emotional and social loneliness. Social lon...
Loneliness {Part 1}
Lonely is not a word I identified with much. I’ve always had friends and things to do. I meet people easily, consider myself social and have felt I belonged in ...
In Search of Family Dinner
This is a piece I wrote for the magazine. I haven’t asked what their policy is on posting pieces elsewhere (this will be printed and our content is curren...
Friendship Without Common Ground?
I’ve been thinking, and reading, a lot about friendship lately. One book is all about dealing with the loss of an important friendship. There is a lot abo...
The New Me
In the past three months I lost 25 lbs, got an IUD placed, bought (and was gifted) a whole new wardrobe (and even some new jewelry and shoes), tried in earnest ...
Is this what the future looks like?
Twice this week my daughter has asked for something and when I informed her that I didn’t know where that particular thing was, she told me it was fine. T...
Recognizing Depression
Medical science has created all manner of diagnostic tools over the years. There are blood tests that detect the slightest traces of hormones or other markers i...