My son turns two today.
I don’t write much about parenting him. I certainly don’t write as much about parenting him as I write about parenting my daughter. There are a lot of reasons for this; mostly it’s because parenting him is a lot easier for me, and I don’t generally come here to write about the easy stuff.
What I should write about more is how thankful I am that he’s here, that he came in time for me to realize that I wasn’t failing as horribly at parenting as I thought I was, that there were other factors at play, that I was right when guessed that maybe I was having a different experience than most mothers, that when I mentioned something that felt hard and another mom commiserated and I felt like maybe we were talking about very different things, that we were.
My son taught me that I CAN be the mother I thought I’d be, even if I’m not that mother in challenging circumstances. Knowing that I can be that mother, that I am that mother, that the experience I expected was not completely out of my reach, was healing in ways I can’t describe. Only in finding that peace was I able to fully embrace the mother I am, and to glimpse the mother I could be, to my first child.
My son healed me in so many ways. He came to me when I had given up hope of having another child and he taught me things about myself that only a second child could teach me. I am always and forever filled with gratitude that he is here.
Thank you my sweet boy. I look forward to walking through life with you.
That’s really lovely. Hope you all have a happy day.
Happy birthday to him! I blog a lot more about my son than my daughter, because parenting him takes a lot more thought. But I post on FB more about my daughter, who says & does cute things. In truth, I love them both equally. They’re just different.
I love mine both equally, but differently. It’s hard sometimes for my brain to understand it, but my heart does. Absolutely. 😉
🙂 I could have written this exact post about my daughter (and my older son) who also happens to be two today. What a different journey it is with a different child – happy birthday to our littles! I am so glad we both have these amazing little beings and the perspective that comes with parenting them. They are true gifts.
I have been so thankful for this different journey with this different child. So, so thankful. Happy birthday today to your sweet girl!
Awww. Happiest of Birthdays to your little guy! I feel the same about my little one, I don’t know if its just the personality or something about being the second kid, but parenting him is like a breath of fresh air
I think it’s a little of both. It can’t be a coincidence that so many second kids are so easy going.
Happy birthday, sweet boy. I last saw you right before the clock started counting!
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We are all so happy he exists, was safely born, and brings joy to the world.
Love, love, love to both you and the little dude!