Not a Wasted Word

Conference

The conference in Palm Springs was a lot of fun. I enjoyed the time with my colleagues, many of whom I didn’t know well before the trip (we teach on different campuses). I only got two hours of sleep on Wednesday night so Thursday was a struggle. I still enjoyed dinner out with everyone and a couple episodes of RHoSLC S4 (in which they travel to Palm Springs!) before I passed out pretty early. Friday evening I had dinner with a friend who left the Bay Area to teach in Palm Springs over ten years ago. I couldn’t believe it had been that long! Saturday we heard the closing remarks and attended two final sessions before heading back home. The 105 degree heat was very oppressive, and it sucked to show up at 9am with my back soaked in sweat each day, but all in all it was a positive experience and I’m glad I went. I’ve already tried a few things I learned at the conference in my classes!

Fun things (recent and upcoming)

Last Sunday we went down to my parents’ house to celebrate Easter early, because my parents are going to be in St. Louis over the actual weekend. My kids may be 12 and 15 but they still love looking for eggs! That afternoon we went to an outdoor Lucha Libre event at the Chase Center. It ended up being a really good time. Our family really loves Lucha Libre and this event was a lot of fun. We weren’t sure we could make it and get decent seats with our Easter celebration that morning, but it ended up being totally worth it.

My kids have spring break starting tomorrow and through next week. I wanted to take off Tuesday, but couldn’t get a sub, so now I’m taking off Monday, which is more annoying for me as far as planning goes. The positives of being of Monday are that I can take my parents to the airport and my daughter to her physical (which she needs to keep competing on her school swim team). I’m not sure what else we’ll do that day, but I’m determined to get them out of the house to do something fun.

My own spring break is the week after, and right now I have nothing but appointments planned. I may spend a night at my parents’ house alone, so I can at least get a 24 hour break. I’m really bummed our LA trip was cancelled and that we didn’t manage to make any other plans. The husband is now going to Nashville for a conference the second weekend (since our trip was cancelled), so at least he gets to do something he wants…

Work

Work was rough this week after being gone Thursday and Friday last week. I ended up with a sub I don’t love on Thursday, and she texted me all day Thursday about how “disrespectful” my students were, but still managed to leave me three pages of handwritten notes as well. I left my phone number so she could let me know if anything wasn’t posting on google classroom right, or she couldn’t get into the computer I left with the agenda slides, and while I was able to put out a few fires, it really sucked to spend all of Thursday at the conference, but having to engage with my sub. I really think it’s hard for non-teachers to understand what a PITA it is for teachers to be away from their classrooms. It absolutely sucks.

Also, the spring crunch has begun. The 7/8 classes are inventing original stories and then filming video skits of those stories. It’s a lot of work on my end, and the filming days are stressful (and fall on my already horrible Thursdays!) I’m starting to feel the pressure with yearbook. I’m not panicking or anything, but I’m definitely very aware of how many weeks are left until mid-May. There are a couple more parent volunteers that are eager to help and I am gratefully offloading work to them. I know it will all be fine, but I wish I had made some different decisions in February, that’s for sure.

Marriage

The husband and I have been butting heads lately about work load around the house and I’m feeling really over it. I think I do more than he does, and feel especially frustrated when he is stressed and I take on his work to provide him more margins, but then I am shown no such consideration when I am totally overwhelmed. When he’s out of town he returns to a blank slate, chore-wise, but when I come back I have all the laundry still to do, the floors to vacuum, and the sheets to change.

He suggested he should over the stuff I do in the mornings, but then was almost catatonic both evenings after he did so. I just feel like there is no way for him to do more without paying some kind of price and I need to just keep offloading chores to the kids instead of him. I absolutely participated in the creation of the systems I now wish I could change, and I don’t totally blame my husband. I also truly believe that he needs more sleep to function, and that has less capacity to things done during the work week (due to both his schedule and his energy levels). We both feel like much of what we do isn’t recognized or acknowledged.

The final complication is our attitude toward time spent with the kids. I prefer to do my own thing in the evenings and then spend a shorter, more focused amount of time with each kid (or both together), which he feels like just being upstairs and around while they are doing different stuff is important and that it counts toward his “on time.” This might be the biggest issue honestly, and I don’t know how to reconcile our views.

Knee

I requested physical therapy and was able to get in super fast when someone cancelled. I went on Tuesday and he wants me to focus on stretching for the first two weeks. I see him again during my break and then we’ll start working on strength, though he doesn’t feel any weakness on that side. I also made an appointment for acupuncture during my spring break. I really hope all this will help me finally see some improvement. I am so over me knee not getting better.

Um, has it really been almost two weeks since I posted!? I did NOT realize it had been that long. But honestly, things have been so crazy that I’m not really surprised.

And things have been crazy, but they haven’t really been very interesting. I’ve been slammed at work and running on fumes at home and now I’m heading to Palm Springs for a work conference. It’s 6:50am and I’ve been up for two and a half hours and maybe I got the much sleep last night and I have a lot of day left ahead of me.

California is experiencing a pretty intense heat wave right now. It’s been in the 80s in San Francisco and it hit 90 a couple times at work this week. It’s going to be 102 in Palm Springs today, which is way hotter than I’m used to.

Is it really only mid-March?

We just boarded and I have my MOAC (mother of all coffees) an I’m going to put this up because why not?

Sorry I’ve been AWOL so long. I should have some time and bandwidth to post over the next couple days.

Two cancellations in two weeks. I mentioned in a past post (I’m not sure which one) that I was really looking forward to a Spring Break trip to LA to visit friends and meet their new baby, and the music festival La Onda in May. Well, last week La Onda emailed ticket holders to announce that the festival is not taking place. There was no explanation, they just cancelled it. This past week I confirmed my dates with my friends in LA and they told me that I couldn’t actually come that weekend because a friend from Canada was coming with her baby then. I’m not sure how our wires got crossed on the dates, but now I have nothing to look forward to before summer break and I will admit to be pretty bummed about it.

Snagging a coveted wait list spot. The husband found a really cool Marine Biology overnight camp offered by UC and in the 24 hours we spent deciding if we should spend $3K on it (yep, you read that right, $3k for ONE WEEK of camp), it filled up. But last week a spot opened up and my husband was the first of 70 people on the wait list to snag it. Nothing like a scarcity of spots to make me feel better about spending an insane amount of money on a week of my kid’s life.

Hard drive data retrieval. Speaking of feeling okay about spending a lot of money on something, the guy at the data retrieval center was able to get my photos and videos off my busted external hard drive! I’ve been dragging my feet on taking it in for half a year because I was worried it would be a lost cause, but after a week he was able to retrieve all my data! It was $150 for a new hard drive and $350 for his services (a great price from what I’d read online), and I was happy to spend that $500 to get every photo and video I’ve ever taken of my kids (and cats!) back.

The 12yo tested! The 12yo’s belt test is done! He worked really hard for the past two weeks to perfect his form and review the massive amount of techniques he would be tested on. He was at the dojo for over ten hours this week! Luckily it was conference at school, so he got out early all week and had a little more mental and emotional bandwidth to handle that amount of training. He had a good attitude about it, for the most part, and only “crashed out” at the very end. I appreciated when he demonstrates resilience, because that does not come naturally to him.

No news isn’t necessarily good news. My knee and shoulder are… exactly the same. They don’t get worse, but they also don’t get better. I know I came back from my previous knee injury, but this feels different for a couple reasons. That was an acute injury and I knew how it happened. The injury was identified and I did a ton of PT to strengthen the muscles around my knee while the injury healed. This is an over use injury. I have no real understanding of what I was doing to cause it, and while I know it’s my meniscus that is inflamed, I don’t really know what to do to avoid further inflaming it. The doctor basically told me to stop running, hope it eventually felt better, and call to get a cortisone shot if it didn’t ever feel better. But is a cortisone shot really going to help me in the long term, if I don’t know how to correct whatever made it start hurting in the first place?

Ditto my shoulder. I’m not sure what caused the initial ACJ injury and I don’t really know how I aggravated it again. I feel unempowered and hopeless, and like I’m heading toward, “I have a bum knee.” I really don’t want to be one of those people who is not doing the shit she wants to do because she “has a bum knee.” I know it hasn’t been that long (almost two months?), but I just don’t know how I can expect it to get better if I don’t know what caused the problem in the first place. If it doesn’t feel better, I’m clearly not avoiding whatever aggravates it, and so they cycle continues.

Workout rut. On a not unrelated note, I’m in a bit of a workout rut right now. It’s been really hard to get started this week. Some days I can’t think of anything I’d actually like to do, and then I get started and that feeling never goes away and I just have to slog through whatever I picked. In the past when I wasn’t super excited to start a workout, I’d usually feel a lot better about it once I began. That has not been the case recently. It’s a bummer and I’m not sure why it’s happening and I’m not sure how long it will last. Exercise is usually my emotional escape, but lately has not provided that. I’ve also been feeling kind of low emotionally, so maybe that is the ultimately problem. I’m just not sure why exercise isn’t helping me feel better mentally and emotionally like it usually does.

Three posts in three days!? I’m as shocked as you are! Expect the unexpected in the big 2-6!

Now on to the third post (a monthly goal post no less! I’m on a roooooll!)

I still have not formally posted my 2026 goals! If I’m hoping to do that by the Spring Solstice I only have a few more weeks to get it done. But here is how February went, and what I hope to accomplish in March.

February Goals

These were the goals I wrote out in my January Look Back/February Look Ahead post.

• Have fun on the snow trip weekend (even though the snow is evidently not great) ✅
• Steam clean the downstairs (when I’m off and the kids are not, after the snow trip) ❌ (This did not happen, but I did clean the bathroom)
• Add a chore to each kid’s list and use the app consistently ❌❌❌ (Mega fail!)
• Write 2-3 blog posts a week, ideally on consistent days ✅ ❌ (Kind of?! I do think I was more consistent – mostly because of FJIGs posts, but I wasn’t 2-3x/wk consistent.)
• Respond to comments and/or comment on someone’s blog when they comment on mine ❌❌❌
• Continue Strong Glutes program 2-3x/week ✅ (This actually got hard as the workouts got longer and more challenging and I’m proud that I kept it up.)
• Do shoulder rehab exercises at least 3x/week ❌❌ (I kept stuff for this upstairs and I think that made it hard to execute. I’m going to figure out how to do it better in the downstairs space.)
• Slowly return to the dojo without aggravating my knee or shoulder ✅ My knee and shoulder never hurt when I’m at the dojo, but are usually sore for a few days afterward.)
• Weekend check-ins (on Thursdays) and weekly check-ins (on Sunday) with husband ❌❌ (We did some scattered check-ins but nothing consistent or especially effective.)
• Add February weeks to Tri2 planning document ✅ (I am so pleased I’ve kept this up! I’m beginning to believe I will have a comprehensive set of pacing documents for both 7th and 8th grade classes next year!)
• Sign the 15yo up for life guard training ✅ (We got the second-to-last spot! It starts on Easter Sunday, which I didn’t realize when I signed her up, but it’s definitely the best one for her schedule.)
• Decide on Hawaii trip for this summer ✅ (This was actually really hard and took a while…)
• Buy flights for Hawaii ✅ (…and then the minute we decided my husband got tickets.)
• Figure out dates for St. Louis and possibly buy those tickets too ✅ (This was also a really time consuming process, both deciding on the dates and finally pulling the trigger on flights. It’s so hard to spend $500+ on flights to St. Louis! Why are they so expensive?!)
• Start thinking about summer camps for the 12yo ❌ (Registration day is 3/21, and if we’re not ready by 10am on that Saturday, there will be no space left for anything.)

Reading / Watching

This is a new addition, but I don’t see myself writing more comprehensive posts about what I read, so I might as well list books in these monthly posts.

Books

• Listened to Wild Dark Shore, Charlotte McConaghy
• Listened to Scythe, Niel Shusterman (listened to this while my son read it – a really great YA novel)
• Started listening to Nuestra Parte de la Noche, Mariana Enriquez (reread – my husband started it (in English) but he stalled out, so I stalled out on my reread)
• Started listening to My Friends, Frederik Blackman (I’m reading this very slowly with my daughter who is also reading it very slowly)
• Listened to La Red Púrpura, Carmen Mola
• Started reading The Elsewhere Express, Samantha Sotto Yambao
• Started listening to Alchemized (Spanish Version), SenLinYu (Ankara Cabeza Lázaro and Patricia Isabel Mora Pérez, translators)

Movies / TV

• Mission Impossible: Dead Reckoning (w/ family)
• Mission Impossible: Final Reckoning (w/ family)
• Sinners (rewatch w/ 15yo)
• Die My Love
• Gravity (w/ family)
• The War of the Worlds (w/ family)
• Percy Jackson and the Olympians, Season 2 (w/ family)
• The Night Manager, Season 2
• City of Shadows
• Real Housewives of Salt Lake City, Season 3
• Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Season 15

Connection

What went well:

The family spent a long weekend in the snow. The husband and I met for lunch downtown during my break and we watched Die My Love. The 15yo and I finished RHoSLC Season 3 and are watching the most current season of RHoBH. We’re spending a long time in the car together on Saturday! The 12yo let me help him with his cell project and we’ve been working on his current form for martial arts. I took him and his friend mini-golfing one weekend. My friends and I spent an afternoon playing pinball on February first and thank goodness, because we didn’t see each other the rest of the month.

What I’m still working on: I didn’t feel like the husband and I really connected once a week, though we did find some quality time here and there. I’m still struggling to follow a consistent blogging schedule and even more so with comment reciprocation. Also, I didn’t see my parents in any meaningful way this month.

Health/Wellness

What went well: I’ve continued to be on the bike a ton; I’m about to hit 100 cycle classes (a lot of my “bike” classes before were Bike Bootcamps, but now I’m doing more “Intervals & Arms” classes which are in a different category). I finished the Crushing Your Core program and have continued the Strong Glutes program (I did it at least twice a week all month, which was my goal!)

I hit “Gold” on the Peloton Pilates challenge, which means I completed 15 classes – and I didn’t even start until the second week of the month! I’m actually really proud of that one, because it was a late February goal and I am glad I attempted it and met it. {Actually I exceeded it, because I only hoped to hit “bronze” (5 classes) but then after that I went for “Silver” (10 classes) and ended up doing five more ten minute classes to hit “Gold” (the first five classes I did were all 30 minutes long and the second five were mostly 20 minutes long).} I’m really liking the Pilates classes; they are a great addition to my workout routine right now, with my busted knee and shoulder. Basically I’ve been doing Pilates and a Strong Glutes class on my “rest” days which means I worked out almost every day in February. I usually don’t do that so I’m pretty proud!

What I’m still working on: While I was really consistent with my Strong Glutes program, I fell off the shoulder rehab pretty quickly. Which is not good because my shoulder is still bothering me! My knee is too actually, so maybe it doesn’t even matter. Sigh. I am definitely still working on eating more fiber and drinking more water. And sleeping 6.5-7.5 hours a night is not happening.

Work

What went well: All the weeks of February have been added to my Tri2 planning doc. I administered, and scored the big 1B assessment. I recorded notes for each class every day for the two of the three weeks (who was absent, who was moved, etc). We voted on the theme of the yearbook.

What I’m still working on: I still have not added audio books to my free reading program, or started a yearbook master document. I haven’t gotten student page editors started on the yearbook.

Home

What went well: Erm… not much honestly. I did give each kid one more chore and helped them each do it a couple times. I did a big “bedding” clean downstairs and washed everything on our bed for the first time in… a long time (we’ll leave it at that). I got all the snow clothes out, and then packed back away (not a small feat!)

What I’m still working on: You will probably not be shocked to learn that I failed on my family roll out of the app. Every week I meant to sit everyone down and really talk about how I wanted us to utilize it and every week I failed to do that. I’m really hoping to manage it this month. I think it’s my best bet at actually getting the kids (and my husband!) to do more around the house.

Fun

What went well: The snow trip was fun, even though it was abbreviated. Black Chasm Cavern ended up being a real bright spot. We watched Percy Jackson Season 2 as a family, which was a nice palate cleanser after Stranger Things Season 4. We watched Mission Impossible: Dead Reckoning and Final Reckoning and loved them both. And technically I did meet up with my friends once, on February 1^st.  The husband and I met for lunch once and went out to dinner once, which I will count as our “two date nights.”

What I’m still working on: I still am not scheduling 1-2 things to look forward to a week.

Planning/Recording

What went well: I feel like I really stalled out on Planning/Recording this month. But! We did manage ourselves relatively despite the husband being out of town the first week, and totally absorbed in work the last week of the month, an unexpected, week-long strike at our kids’ school district, and a winter storm messing with our snow trip. Also, I wrote a January goals post and managed a February goals post, which isn’t nothing! Also, I have used Google Tasks some, but not consistently.

What I’m still working on: The husband and I are not meeting regularly to look at the work week or weekends. I don’t have a reliable “task capture” system and I’m not checking in with my planner regularly at all. I did not do a financial review in January (and I don’t have a plan yet to do one). I don’t have a good system for actually using Google Tasks effectively yet. I am checking my planner consistently every morning.

March Goals

And here are some things I hope to accomplish in March (some of these are repeats, but I really do want to do them!)

• Enjoy myself – and learn something! – at the CALIE conference in Palm Springs
• Check the chore app daily and with the kids weekly
• Hold kids accountable for doing chores weekly (they are supposed to lose privileges on the weekends until chores are done)
• Add a chore to each kid’s list 1-2x a month
• Write 2-3 blog posts a week, ideally on consistent days
• Respond to comments and/or comment on someone’s blog when they comment on mine
• Do shoulder rehab exercises 1-2x/week
• Continue at the dojo without aggravating my knee or shoulder
• Weekend check-ins (on Thursdays) and weekly check-ins (on Sunday) with husband
• Daily planner check + Google Task update on week day mornings
• Add March weeks to Tri2 planning document
• Look into PADI certification for 15yo’s birthday
• Car rentals for Hawaii and St. Louis
• Find a couple Rec & Park camps for the 12yo and sign him up

Sorry if it’s boring to see the same stuff on here, but I didn’t hit a lot of these last time and I really want to keep trying!

February was kind of a rough month, but the FIGs Collective absolutely made it better. Finding my own FJIGs, and reading about other people’s FIGS, definitely helped me Find Joy In Gratitude. Thank you Elizabeth, for celebrating this practice during what can be a long, dark 28 days.

Sunday 2/22. I took the 12yo and his friend to play mini-golf. I am really enjoying the 2nd Scythe book (Thunder Head) which I listened to for over two hours while I made a crazy amount of pancakes. Honestly that is all I got on this day.

Monday 2/23. The 12yo wanted to work on his form! I used to have to beg him (or bribe him) to prep for a test but now he’s taking responsibility for it himself.

Tuesday 2/24. I got good stuff at Grocery Outlet! Sometimes Gross Out (as the 15yo calls it) is a bust and sometimes it’s the best! Also, I did this during the 12yo’s swim practice, and I love using that time wisely.

The 12yo finished his cell project! I helped him print the labels with my little label printer and I helped him organize his thoughts for his essay, and now both the cell model and essay are done! He worked really hard on it, and had a really good attitude about it. I’m both proud of him and relieved that it’s done.

Wednesday 2/25. After considering a last minute cancel of the yearbook meeting, I pulled together the theme-vote form so that we not only had the meeting, but it was actually useful. I got the class characters done for the 1A classes so we could invent new ones on Thursday.

Thursday 2/26. This day was brutally long, and I was “in front of the class” for a big chunk of all my four 85-minute block classes. But! I managed it really well, and made myself be really aware of the downtime I scheduled into each block. Also, one of the classes created a class character that is a piece of “drippy” pizza and the two artists hit it out of the park with their rendition. I love Jeff so much!

Friday 2/27. I made it to the 15yo’s swim meet in time to see her swim two events, and we had a nice conversation on the drive home. The weather was crazy nice (75* in the city)!

Saturday 2/28. The 15yo and I had an hour to kill before her commitment in Santa Cruz and we were close to Natural Bridges, so we went to check it out. Then we walked along this beautiful street between crazy nice houses and cliffs looking out over the ocean. It was a great way to start the day.

While she was at her thing, I sat at a cafe (where I found shade and had Wi-Fi!) and wrote three blog posts and commented on some people’s posts! Again the weather was crazy nice!

I finished three posts while I enjoyed that drink, including my February Look Back / March Look Ahead post! Let’s gooooo!

*TS PMO = this shit pisses me off. I put a space between the S and P because when my daughter says it (which is constantly) she pauses after the S and it’s a pronounced pause so in my head I hear it as two separate “phrases.” Anyway, has been saying it long and often enough that I’m starting to think it and now you all have to be exposed to it too.

This past week was rough. I don’t want to write a whole post highlighting the negative, but I also feel like I need to vent a little bit. I’ll try to keep it light! But if you don’t need a bitch fest during your weekend feel free to skip this one!

Don’t fix what isn’t broken! I have been waiting for this two-pack of CK bras I love to come back to Costco for (over?!) a year. I used to have a pair and I wore them out, then when they came back again there were only smalls left, and while I attempted that size, they could not corral my ladies. They need more coverage! So when I finally spotted them at Costco last week I shrieked with delight. I bought two packs I was so happy! I opened one and washed them, and then I put one on and it… itched like crazy! They wrote Calvin Klein across the side and even though it’s on the outside, my sensitive ass skin can feel it through the fabric and it does NOT approve. I’m so bummed out. WHYYYY did they have to ruin a perfectly awesome bra. NO ONE IS SEEING YOUR BRAND NAME UNDER MY ARM PIT. Ugh, such a bummer.

Where are my margins?! Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday I was either working, doing chores, or deeply involved with a kid for literally every minute of my day. This is not hyperbole! As I lay in bed on Sunday I looked back at the day and could not identify one moment where I sat the fuck down. I can’t remember the last time a weekend day felt so impacted. Monday and Tuesday were the same. I’m not quite sure why all three days felt so exhausting and awful, but it was not a great way to start the week. I feel like I’ve been trying, and failing, to catch up ever since.

{Insert exaggerated yawn here} On a related note, I have been dragging ass lately, like slapping my face to stay awake on the drive home tired. I definitely wasn’t getting enough sleep at the start of the week, but a few nights of 6.5 hours of sleep has not seemed to make a difference. I wondered if I was getting sick, but no symptoms have materialized. Why do I feel like all I can manage is a nap on the couch by 4pm every day this week? It’s making the days feel extra long.

Rec & Park strikes again. SF Rec & Park and I have had a tumultous relationship for over a decade, so that is assuredly exacerbating my annoyance about this, but still…. The city pool that the 15yo’s school uses is being renovated and they were just told that it won’t be ready in early March like planned, so instead of having practice four days a week after school, they have practice two times a week before school. Before school practice doesn’t work well for students that have to take buses half way across the city (and require VERY early wake ups), so we decided she would just swim with her club team. I went to pay for this session and I had to pay full price for what ended up being only three weeks, and then I’ll have to pay again for the rest of the season. I’m so mad that I have to pay $500 for my daughter to be able to participate in a high school sport that should be free! And I’m sad she’s missing a whole season of training with her high school team. It sucks. And it seems like it could have been avoided if the city gave a fuck about the high school swim season.

 Springing forward a week early?! This morning the 15yo needed to be in Santa Cruz at 9:45. The husband had a work event all day, and I didn’t have to teach at the dojo so I took her. I knew what time she needed be there and I knew how long it took to get there and yet I woke us up an hour earlier than necessary and we left an hour earlier than we needed to and we got here exactly an hour earlier than was required. Waking up at 6am on a Saturday is bad enough when I’m not feeling so tired all the time, but this morning I was devastated to realize my mistake. And how or why did I make the mistake? I have no idea. I don’t know what happened in my head. This is such a very ADHD thing… you make a quick calculation and you just, don’t double check it. We ended up walking along the water and the weather was beautiful and it was a lovely 60 minutes (it will be in my FJIGS tomorrow!) but man I could have used that sleep.

Speaking of the husband’s weekend work event… It’s SF Music Week (what does that mean? Beats me!) and the husband has had events pretty much every evening for seven days. It’s been a huge success and he’s very happy and also it’s working out so well for him because I’m doing EVERYTHING at home. There has been more to do at home than usual so I’m feeling pretty fried. I am very much looking forward to his participation on the home front when Music Week is over.

{Had to add this one because it’s kind of breaking my heart… I’m in Santa Cruz and it’s such a beautiful day and I have all these hours to kill and I would DEFINITELY be going for a run if my knee weren’t jacked up. But it’s been especially sore lately so attempting to run would be a bad idea. I did bring my walking shoes, but still… it’s different! I miss running and I’m really going to miss running as the weather gets warmer. Just super bums me out.}

I forgot to link to the wonderful Elizabeth in last week’s FJIGS post, and she is the one who makes this happen every February so not linking to her is NOT ACCEPTABLE. Luckily there are still two more weeks in February (counting this one), so I can rectify that error now and next time. If you want to check out her round up of the FIG Collective’s week 1 and week 2 posts, you can click those links! (It must take a long time to gather all those FIGS (and photos!) and compile them into a post. I am, as always, impressed by her efforts).

Sunday 2/15. We had beautiful weather for what ended up being our only full day in the snow. A family was at our favorite sledding spot near Kirkwood, building out a connector between two sledding hills to make an extra long run and I went down it twice! It was super fun and I thoroughly enjoyed myself.

Our blow-up sled had a hole but the glue and duct tape I brought patched it well enough. (We’ve used that sled for YEARS and honestly I’m shocked it only just got a tear last year.) I had the right pump to blow up the tube we bought last year, but couldn’t use, and that was a ton of fun too.

Back at Iron Mountain, we wrote messages to each other in the snow, and attempted to build a snow man. It was a long, fun, day.

Monday 2/16. Black Chasm Cavern for the win when inclement weather made our second day in the snow a no-go. We went on the cave tour at 1pm, got gourmet ice cream in homemade waffle cones at 2pm, and were watching the snow fall at our cabin (1500 ft below the snow line) at 3:00pm. By 3:30pm we were packing up to go home early, because the snow was falling fast, and we worried we wouldn’t be able to get the Prius out, even with the chains. We were packed in less than an hour, and stalled out on a hill, putting on our chains, by 4:50pm. I was very grateful that it started to snow so early that we had time to pack up and leave. And I was equally grateful that our chains fit and helped us get out of the neighborhood and onto the highway despite the copious snow fall.

Tuesday 2/17. I reveled in sleeping late in my own bed instead of waking up early to try to get our car packed in the snow. I also appreciated not having to stress about getting the kids to their dentist appointments in time. And best of all, the husband filed our taxes for us! I would HATE that loathsome chore, and I am VERY grateful that he has taken it on since we stopped using our CPA.

Wednesday 2/18. Both kids went to school! Woo hoo! I spent over an hour cleaning up our unit, which had accumulated so much stuff during the Christmas Break, and after our Death Valley and snow trips. It felt really good to actually put so much stuff away. We did a lot of punching at the dojo during General class and it felt really good to get out a little aggression.

Thursday 2/19. Thunder Head and The Tolls, books 2 and 3 in the Scythe series, were on deep discount on Audible (all the audio books in the series are “Audible Originals” so I can’t borrow them from the library lending apps), so I got them each for $5. I’m excited to keep listening to them as the 12yo keeps reading them, so we can chat about them every once in a while (he doesn’t LOVE talking about books with me, but that doesn’t stop me from trying!).

We started Stranger Things season 5 and Holly (Mike’s little sister) has the Rainbow Brite bed sheets of my childhood! What a trip to see them there on the screen.

Friday 2/20. I had a yummy lunch with the husband, which warmed up relations between us after a little spat we had that morning.

I serendipitously ended up in a book store where I was reminded I want to read Alchemized. And then I found the Spanish version on Audible! I also saw this book, which I absolutely judged by its cover (and the images printed on the page sides!). Then it was available at a nearby library even though it’s new!

Saturday 2/21. I felt really confident teaching my class at the dojo. The more I teach martial arts, the better I get at teaching martial arts! Not shocking I know, but still appreciated.

I also felt confident during sparring. My ground grappling could use some serious work, but when I sparred a yellow belt I definitely felt in control and like I actually had something to show him. My martial arts confidence can come in fits and starts, so I appreciate it when it shows up.

I walked home with the 12yo again and that was nice. He has a big project due this week and he’s had a really good attitude about working on it independently. He is also working really hard to test with some other red belts early next month, and he’s facing that challenge with a great attitude as well. Honestly it’s like I hardly recognize him right now, he has been putting his head down and doing hard work without any complaining. It’s amazing!

We watched the final Mission Impossible movie as a family Saturday night. It was a ton of fun. I REALLY enjoy watching movies with my family right now. We talk a ton and have to pause constantly, but we make such fond memories. I really, really enjoy it.

UESF Strike

We got an email last Friday morning that the UESF union and district had reached a tentative agreement. After a week out of school, our kids were back this Wednesday (they had Tuesday off for Lunar New Year). I’m so relieved that the strike is over, and that the union is happy with their new contract. I really hope the district doesn’t have to make cuts in the future because of funding deficits.

Honestly, the strike was really hard for us. It felt like the district was being painted as the big corporate bad guy, like they were Amazon trying to screw all their workers for profit. But the reality is so much more complicated than that. My husband eventually was able to articulate that it felt so bad because the problems are so complicated and systemic (at both the state and federal level) and yet we’re left to fight over them in hyper localized, unwinnable conflicts. The strike may be over, but the crisis of public education funding is not.

Snow

Our trip to the snow was fun, but abbreviated. We knew a storm was coming through, and that we’d probably not be able to make it to the Sno Parks on Monday, so we left earlier on Saturday, and went all the way up to the snow that afternoon. We didn’t blow up the sled or tube, but we hiked around, checking out the Sno Park. As I said in my last post, there was very little snow in the Sierras until recently, and I was worried the Sno Parks would be bare. But Iron Mountain, one of our favorite Sno Parks, had plenty of snow and that was a big relief.

Sunday ended up being our only full day in the snow, and we made the most of it. We packed lunch, and were up at our favorite sledding spot near Kirkwood by noon. We spent some time there sledding and tubing, then headed back down to Iron Mountain for some more general playing in the snow.

Monday morning it was raining at the cabin. We went up the mountain a bit to see the snow fall but we didn’t have to go very far. Chain control was much lower than we anticipated and it was clear the storm was moving faster than predicted. We visited Black Chasm Cavern to give us something to do. The tour was great, both entertaining and educational. We were very pleased that we went.

Back at the cabin the rain turned to snow around 3:00pm. The cabin we stay at is below the snow line by about 1500 feet, and while we knew it might snow there early the next morning, we were concerned by how fast it was coming down that afternoon. By 3:30pm we decided to bail and by 4:45 the car was packed.

Storm

In the hour it took us to pack the car, about two inches of snow had fallen. We needed to put on chains to get out of the neighborhood. It rained for much of the drive home. Tuesday morning there was thunder and lightening and then it hailed, both rare occurrences here. It stormed all day Tuesday, most of Wednesday and the first half of Thursday. On Tuesday, 100 miles of I-80 were closed at Donner Pass because of blizzard conditions. My dad sent me tons of videos of cars and trucks spinning in circles. It was crazy, and I’m so glad we left when we did. I don’t think we would have been able to get out if we’d stayed the night.

Highs this week have been in the 40s. I know that is balmy for most folks right now but for us it’s quite chilly. Our heater is running constantly but our house is still so cold. The downstairs especially is frigid. It’s not a super pleasant week to be at home, honestly.

February Break

Getting home early was much appreciated, especially since the kids had dentist appointments on Tuesday afternoon. We all appreciated sleeping in that morning and then lazing around. I did some work around the house. The husband filed our taxes. I cleaned out my dad’s car and drove it down to their house to get mine. The kids got their teeth cleaned and the 12yo went to swimming. They both got ready to rerun to school after a week and a half away.

My three days off have been… meh. I have been getting up to get the 15yo up and out the door. Should she be able to manage that herself? Maybe. Probably. But it felt like a lot to ask after the unexpected, extended break. I also offered to drive the 12yo to school on the two days I didn’t have an early morning dentist appointment (Thursday I got a cavity filled).

The nice part about waking up early is I’ve had a lot of time to get stuff done. I dried and repacked the snow clothes, and got them out to the shed during a break in the weather. I washed our bedding. Including all the myriad pillow casings (our pillows have zip up covers, which are encased in anti-allergy protectors). I got some work done.

Today I met the husband for lunch. Before heading home I walked to a Peet’s to get coffee (I have two gift cards and Peet’s is not long for this world) and lingered at a book store for a while. I didn’t buy anything, but I put a couple ideas on my TBR list. This afternoon I plan to do more work, a Peloton Pilates class and some clean up.

Coming up

It’s that time of year where summer is far away but we have to think about it incessantly for planning purposes. I think we’ve finally settled on St. Louis dates and I plan to buy those tickets today. The husband has been looking into summer camps for the 12yo and internship opportunities for the 15yo. As always, opportunities are scarce and impacted.

There are some fun things coming up between now and my summer break. The husband and I plan to visit friends in LA during my spring break (the kids are off the week before me). We’re going to a day of the La Onda music festival in Napa over Memorial Day weekend, where Ivan Cornejo and J. Balvin are both headlining. There are other smaller highlights, but those are definitely the biggest things I’m looking forward to. It’s nice to have some anticipated bright spots between now and summer break.

Sunday 2/8. I LOVED the Benito Bowl. The fact that the Super Bowl half time show – in 2026! – was sung entirely in Spanish, makes my heart so happy.

{Debí tirar más fotos was my most listened to album of 2025. I’ve been trying to get my classes to listen to more than a couple songs of it for MONTHS but they always ask me to switch to something else. Now they request Bad Bunny and sing along to some of the songs. It makes so happy. And I’ve earned a little street cred for being such a Bad Bunny fan for so long.}

Also, these cats had a fighting match and it was hilarious. I love when they fight, because they clearly both enjoy it very much.

Monday 2/9. I got BOTH SETS OF ASSESSMENTS scored! After not doing anything over the weekend, I locked in during my prep (and the random classes I was covering) and scored the Listening, Reading and Writing sections for both classes’ assessments. It felt really good to get caught up after falling behind. In the evening, we had time to watch TWO episodes of Percy Jackson. Only one to go!

Tuesday 2/10. My principal called me aside in the morning to tell me that at a leadership meeting, when they were asked to highlight an act of kindness they experienced recently, she mentioned that I had waited to flush for her the day before, when she was on the phone in the bathroom. And while that might seem weird, I love that I’m close enough with my principal that I felt I could say, “I waited to flush for you!” when we both walked out of the stalls yesterday after school, and that she just cracked up instead of being embarrassed. Teaching is hard, but it’s so much better when you like the adults you work with.

At home I enjoyed these two cats.

{I’ll admit, some of these gratuitous cat pics might be for Engie}

Wednesday 2/11. My 6th period (which I saw first thing because of our block schedule) was so good during their big assessment. I love that class and I’m so grateful for them. (I have since scored those assessments and they did really well! I’m very proud of them.)

Thursday 2/12. I was able to cast the Olympics on the Peacock app from my phone to the TVs so we could watch during the PE class block period. It was also sunny, so we could spend the other half of class outside on the black top. Back at home I got most of the packing done for our trip.

Wednesday night I texted the 12yo’s friends’ parents and we organized a meet up at a park, where they spent a few hours outside and together. After three days at home alone, this hang out was a big deal for the 12yo.

The 15yo’s plans with friends fell through, so the husband invited her to lunch by his work. She was disappointed that her friends cancelled on her, but she enjoys us enough that she was happy to meet up her dad instead. I’m very grateful that we have that relationship with her.

Friday 2/13. We woke up to an email announcing a tentative agreement between the union and the district. After a week of striking, teachers would be back in classrooms after the long weekend.

Nobody mentioned that it was Friday the 13th! Not all day long. Working in a middle school, I call that a win!

My parents took the kids to the Exploratorium, which was offering free admission to SFUSD students during the strike. That place is expensive so we never go. And I know my parents LOVED getting to hang out with the kids.

Saturday 2/14. We only left an hour later than we wanted and had no issues getting to the cabin. After the 9+ hours in the camper van to Death Valley, less than three hours in my dad’s Prius felt like a breeze.

There was actually snow at the sno park even though there was barely any snow on the drive up. I’ve been nervous about the snow for weeks so that was a big relief.

Back at the cabin we had dinner and watched a movie – The Italian Job – but not before I made a fire and enjoyed a little cocktail.

I’m thankful that last week is over, the I’m hanging out with my family at a cabin for a few days, and that my kids will go back to school on Wednesday.

This is a weird week. It’s weird at home because UESF teachers are still on strike (we just got a text message at 5:15pm that schools are closed again tomorrow, for a third day), so both our kids are at home all day while we’re working (I teach in a different district than my kids attend).

It’s weird at work because the vast majority of the 7^th graders are at outdoor ed. I teach two classes that are mostly 7^th grade, so this week I have my 8^th graders from those classes with me while I cover other people’s classes. I am in a 6^th grade coding class during 2^nd period and an 8^th grade PE class during 5^th period.  

Next week my kids have Monday and Tuesday off (President’s Day and Lunar New Year) and I have the whole week off. We’re supposed to go to the snow for three nights, but it’s currently snowing quite a bit and it supposed to snow more over the weekend. We’ll be driving a Prius (my dad’s car) that I don’t currently have tire chains/cables for (I intend to buy some tomorrow).

I’m nervous for the trip to the snow. I’m nervous to drive and nervous to strain both my knee and shoulder. My knee is stiff and sore and popping painfully again, after a Saturday on the mat and two long walks. My shoulder actually feels pretty decent, and I want to keep it that way!

I’ve been in a funky head space recently. Actually, it’s mostly been a bad mood. I realized that it’s at least partially because of I’ve lost exercise as a mental health regulator. Usually I move my body to feel good, both physically and emotionally. Right now working out feels fraught. Am I actually hurting myself? Will my knee or shoulder be upset with me later? I’m so hyper aware of my body while I’m working out that I never get that release of just losing myself in the movement. And then later I feel bummed out because how I moved did, in fact, upset my knee or shoulder. So not only have I lost what used to be my source of emotional regulation, but it’s actually making me feel worse. It really sucks and it’s really getting me down.

This week I could really use the stress relief that exercise used to provide, but sadly I will not be getting it. I guess I have to find other ways to cope.