I’ve been informed a couple of times that my recent posts or comments are “Trumpian” or “Trump-aligned.” These critiques are in reference to my comments about our nation’s inability to maintain the current level of shelter in place without destroying our economy beyond repair. And that I’m not personally afraid of contracting the novel Coronavirus.
I clarified, though I feel my original post was pretty clear, that when I say we can’t maintain this level of shelter-in-place for a year without destroying our economy, that I am not promoting some plan where we open up earlier than public health experts recommend. When I say that I am stating a fact. Our economy will be destroyed, for the great majority of Americans, if the level of unemployment keeps rising and then remains at these unprecedentedly high rates for a full year. That is an indisputable fact. And we don’t have the social services in place to help the people who will be the most adversely affected.
When I wrote that, it was part of a larger thought. Actually, it was part of a question. What is the end game here? All the plans I’ve seen for ways we might tentatively open up the economy and start living again rely on a level of testing we won’t be able to implement any time in the near future (if at all), access to PPE that isn’t currently available, the production of anti-viral medications (that would help younger people with bad outcomes manage the virus at home without needing hospital care) that don’t currently exist, and a vaccine that we don’t even know if we can develop, let alone manufacture and distribute at meaningful rates. So basically, none of the plans are viable, at least not in the United States. So how does all this end? I guess the answer is that we absolutely don’t know, but no one in power is willing to say it.
I feel like I can say that and not be pushing for the reopening of the economy on some Trumpian soapbox. But maybe I can’t.
As for me not being afraid to get COVID-19, that is my own personal feeling about my own personal situation. It is not meant to comment on anyone else’s feelings about the virus or how much they fear getting it. We all have different health histories and underlying conditions and the threats COVID-19 poses are different for everyone. And yes, I know that anyone can get very sick with the coronavirus, and be left relying on a respirator, or dead. While I am a relatively healthy individual, I’ve fallen into the small percentages of people that experience adverse outcomes in otherwise benign situations. My first pregnancy was an ectopic, and only 1% of pregnancies are ectopic. I also ended up with sepsis, from a case of mastitis I didn’t even know I had until I left home fine and arrived at a well-visit with a 104* fever. I could easily have died in either of those instances without modern medical care. So it’s not like I’ve never experienced being on the wrong side of reassuring medical statistics. I know anything can happen.
Maybe I am ignorant not to be afraid of getting the coronavirus. Or stupid. I’m basing my feelings on what I’ve read (in reputable new sources like TPM and the NYT) and what my friends and relatives who are doctors and nurses have told me. And my feelings only relate to me. I only mention it to explain that anxiety about getting this virus is not what is hard for me right now. It’s certainly is not meant to comment on anyone else’s fear or anxiety, and it’s especially not meant to comment on public health advisories or orders. Nor is it meant to suggest that we should be reopening the economy right now.
Besides questioning the closing of open spaces, I have never criticized the steps public health officials are taking to protect us. I follow the shelter-in-place orders as well as most people. I have never stepped foot in an open space that has been closed but is still accessible. I wear a mask and gloves the few times a month I leave the house to grocery shop. I have social distance walked with my parents twice, and visited their backyard once, but I stayed six feet away from them, and wore a mask when we were interacting. That is the only time I’ve “met up” with anyone during the shelter in place order.
I know people who still have nannies caring for their children, or are still using home childcare facilities, or are still having their parents watch their kids. My cousin, who is an oncologist, eats at his sister’s house, with her husband and kids, regularly. I’m not flaunting a refusal to follow public health guidelines, because I am not refusing to follow them. I don’t complain about quarantine cramping my style, or the hardships I’m personally experiencing (which are few and superficial) but I do write about mental health issues that our current situation have manifested for me. Maybe I lack resilience or grit, but I’m not bitching about the sacrifices we need to make as a society.
We recognize the threats that we see, that are right in front of us. I don’t know anyone, personally, who has had the coronavirus (at least who knows they’ve had it – and the fact that we’re now hearing that millions of us probably had it and never even knew is not helping me cautiously assess my personal risk right now). I know OF four people who have had it (a friend’s adult stepdaughter, a colleague’s ex-husband, etc). None of them were hospitalized. The lack of personal experience with the actual virus also probably makes me naive in my risk-assessment.
On the other hand I hear about the economic devastation every day. Our district will be laying off a lot of people to manage an unforeseen $4 million dollar budget deficit (this might seem like a small number, but we are a small district and it’s a very big number for us). My husband spends all day helping small business owners shut their doors forever, after losing everything to just six weeks of economic shut down. (I’ve read we can expect 75% of small business in the country to close, which means we’ll be even more dependent that ever on the giants like Amazon, who already have little incentive to treat their employees fairly). I’ve watched my friends be furloughed, before they most likely (in their understanding) lose their jobs. I listen to my good friend, who is a single mom, worry about defaulting on her mortgage now that her hours have been cut to almost nothing. The economic devastation is not something we can ignore if we care about the overall health of this country. I don’t understand why it’s so inappropriate to say that out loud. Especially when our country provides no safety nets to the families that are losing everything.
And what this is doing to the kids who are homeless, or facing food scarcity, or stuck at home with an abusive adult, or unable to access the services they need through schools… these are all very real concerns. There are some students I haven’t heard from in six weeks and I’m devastated to think of what they are living through. I doubt many of them will ever make it back to school again. This pandemic has wrought so many tragedies, it’s just easier to ignore them because they are effectively invisible. They aren’t counted in the newspapers every day.
Again, none of that is a call to do something. Or a critique of what is being done. It’s just the reality. I don’t know what the answer is, and I’m very relieved that it’s not my job to decide what kind of answer can be cobbled together with the reality of our country’s situation. I’m just bringing all this up because THIS is what causes MY anxiety. These are the realities that keep me up at night. I am very lucky to have relative job security, and to not have to worry excessively over the health of my immediate family. I am not worried about me personally. But there is still plenty to worry about. And the secondary effects of flattening the curve are what keep me up at night. They are what make it hard for me to concentrate, and what deepen my depression.
We are not a country that is built to help the people who will live but will be devastated. And we will not be able to make meaningful changes in time to mitigate the damage.
I do not believe we are doing enough to acknowledge the very real ways in which we are failing the people who are physically healthy, but have no hope for the future.
If feeling that way makes me Trumpian, then I guess I’m more Trump-aligned than I realized.
Post script: This ended up sounding more… defensive… than I intended. I will admit I felt offended by being called Trumpian. And I feel defensive about putting this out there. I am not, fundamentally, worried about how I feel about all of this. I don’t think I’m a bad person who cares about the wrong things. I do worry that because Trump harps incessantly on the importance of an economic rebound – for his own personal gain, not out of concern for the well being of Americans – that suggesting the economic devastation is important, or a cause for concern and anxiety, will be seen as callous and shallow. I do believe I have an attitude that is respectful to the severity of the public health crisis, while also being concerned about the severity of the economic crisis. I believe you can respect the severity of both crises at once. I believe you can recognize the horrors of the coronavirus, and not be horrified about getting it yourself. The two are not mutually exclusive.
Maybe I am fundamentally wrong about this. Or I can’t express it in a way that comes off quite “right.” If I’m being called Trumpian, I must not be making myself clear, because being Trump-aligned is the last thing I would ever consider myself. I know other people who feel the same way, people who work in public service and aren’t worried for themselves, but despair for their communities. I don’t believe these people are Trump-aligned. Maybe I’m just not articulate enough to express myself effectively.
Or maybe I am Trumpian, and I just don’t realize it.
If you have information or resources that would help me better understand the reality of our situation, please send them my way. I am always looking for ways to broaden, or deepen, my understanding of what is happening right now.
This is one opinion piece that I feel better articulates my thoughts than I do.