Paradise

We made it. The flight was fine. We were sandwiched between four loud families with small kids, but we’ve been flying so much this summer we hardly noticed. The 5.5 hours passed rather quickly.

And then we arrived here.

Drink our friend had ready when we arrived

This place is truly paradise. And it’s way out of our league. I’m so glad we were able to come, despite the uncertainty of our future COVID status. I guess that is always a looming issue, and it seems only fair that we really have to deal with it on our last trip.

And if we do get COVID, I can’t think of a better place to isolate.

This morning I tested negative again. My daughter isn’t up yet to test. None of the other people who were with us at the KOA have tested positive yet. Fingers crossed we all managed to miss it some how.

In the meantime I’m typing this post on my phone in this hammock. So life is pretty damn good.

#noregrets

Spoke too soon

Last night (after I wrote and scheduled the previous post), my friend called to tell me she tested positive for COVID. She has been with us at the KOA for the full week, and had tested negative before she left.

That means she got it on a quick shopping trip during the week. Or she had it before she got there, but took a while to show symptoms (in her case a bad headache that showed up on Saturday and wouldn’t go away on Sunday).

We obviously spent a lot of time with her this week, including 4 hours in the car on Saturday and an hour in the car on Sunday (she drove my daughter and I home). We were obviously around her when she was contagious.

This, of course, caused us to rethink our travel plans. We’re staying with people in Maui so we had to let them know and see what they were comfortable with. They said we could still come, but we’d be sleeping in a smaller house on the property, not in the big house. I ran to Costco this morning and bought 20 extra tests to bring – my daughter and I will be testing every morning at least, and of course we’ll test more if anyone gets symptoms.

And of course we run the risk of being stuck in Hawaii longer than expected, needing to find additional lodging and change our flights.

It was hard to figure out what to do, but ultimately we decided we be more disappointed to stay home and never test positive than to go and test positive. How knows if that will actually be the case…

Let’s just hope our antibodies are still working. They’ve certainly gotten a workout with all our traveling so far.

Off we go again!

Today we leave on our final trip of the summer. This is our last minute trip to Maui, which we made because we were invited to spend a week with friends in a large house on the beach. The flights were relatively cheap (and I had a $300 credit from my Covid-cancelled Portland trip), and all we had to pay toward the lodging was a quarter of the $2K cleaning fee. It’s an incredible opportunity to visit a place that normally would be very much outside our price range, and we felt we couldn’t pass it up.

So today we fly to Maui (barring any transportation complications). After flying to London, a 5.5 hour straight shot feels very manageable.

Unpacking from the KOA trip and repacking for a beach vacation in 10 hours felt a little less manageable yesterday, but I made it happen.

This has been a really nuts summer for us, travel wise. I was doing some math in my head at the KOA and I calculated that there were 68 nights in my summer break, and I spent 34 of them sleeping somewhere other than my bed, which is weirdly exactly half of the nights. So I’ve spent half of my summer traveling – St. Louis, the rafting trip, London, the KOA and Maui. That is crazy.

And I don’t anticipate it will ever happen again. While I’m incredibly thankful for all that trips we’ve taken – and the fact that Covid did not derail any of them (yet! All appendages crossed!!!) – it was a bit much for little old me. I just don’t have it in me to unpack and pack over and over again all summer long, or to sleep in so many different beds.

And the only way we could afford all this was a combination of special circumstances (my parents paid for the AirBnB in London and our accommodations in Maui are basically free) and a very large tax refund that had something to do with us no longer being landlords. We certainly don’t usually have the money to fly four of us across the Atlantic (our London flights cost SO MUCH), let alone fly us to Hawaii after doing so (even if the flights are cheaper than expected).

Luck also played a roll. The fact that we left late on Monday for London meant I could go to the rafting trip, even though I got back late Sunday night. The fact that our kids’ school district started on a Wednesday (for the first time in the seven years they’ve attended), and mine started a week later than usual, meant we could fit in Maui during literally the last week of the break. We come back Monday night and our kids start school Wednesday morning. I have my first staff day on Thursday or Friday (I’ll be at work on Thursday either way).

The KOA trip was really fun. It was intense, but highly enjoyable. After so much time with family, my son, daughter and I all appreciated spending some time with friends. The weather was lovely (warm enough to swim in the cold pool, but cool enough at night to sleep without air conditioning), and the company was lovelier. It helps that the KOA is only an hour from our side of the city, which made bringing my son home halfway, and then returning with a friend, fairly easy. It was also our second year going, so we had a much better idea of what to bring and how to execute the trip.

I’ve spend almost no time thinking about work this summer. And I’m going to try to keep it out of my mind until we get back. Last summer I spent two weeks packing my room in June and another week and a half unpacking it in August, so I very much appreciate the extended break I’m getting this year. I do think I’ll be ready to go back in mid-August. I know I’m ready for my kid to be back on their regular schedules.

I’ll try to post a bit in Maui. Thanks for sticking with me this summer!

Time is a flat circle

We’re at the KOA. It feels strangely like we never left.

Being here last year was our attempt at normalcy. Our kids had been in school for 10 days the whole school year before, but we were promised a return to the classroom in the fall. The last of us was finally eligible for vaccination. The future felt full of possibility, the possibility of normalcy. Of things returning to what they had been.

Or maybe I just want to remember that it felt like that last year. Maybe it didn’t feel like that at all. Time is hard to hold on to. The years melt together. The threads holding together the narrative are brittle and break easily.

The ways I felt and when I felt them exist in liminal spaces that I can’t really grasp from here.

Time is a flat circle*. I don’t really know what that means but I’ve thought of it a lot these past years, because for me it means that time doesn’t always makes sense in the ways I want it to. And that’s okay.

Right now I’m in a place that seems to exist, for me, in both this year and the last one. And it’s a weird place to be, but not necessarily a bad one.

Also floaties.

*I know this phrase from the first season of True Detective but I believe it’s from Nietzsche originally.

Sunday Get-Shit-Done-Day

We got home at 1:30am on Friday morning, after over 13 hours of flying and 17 hours of traveling. My husband and kids slept some on the second flight from New York to San Francisco. I did not. We all slept relatively well at home and got up early. Friday we didn’t do much: we unpacked; my son went to martial arts; my daughter got to see two friends.

Friday night everyone went to bed really early except me. While I slept pretty consistently in London, I always felt really tired during the days there. It was like my body always knew that something was off, and it wasn’t a fan. It seems to have taken me no time readjust to Pacific Daylight Savings Time – my body is relieved to be back to it’s regularly scheduled sleep patterns. My family has returned not to our time zone so easily. I hope they all feel better soon, especially my husband.

Saturday was also pretty low key. Everyone was up before 8am, except for me. I went to martial arts in the morning. (We all tested before returning being around other people; so far we’re all negative). Then I planned to walk with my kids to get a sweet treat, but my son wasn’t feeling so great so we scratched that. Instead I bought my son some shoes (thanks for the reco SHU), and my daughter a new backpack (both online). I also designed and ordered a mug and wooden desk plaque for my parents with pictures of our London trip, as a thank you (from Shutterfly). I cut my son’s hair and he took a long bath. Then he and I went grocery shopping before watching Jurassic Park (the original 1993 movie).

My son clearly has something… I hoped it was allergies, but now I think it’s at least a cold. I hope it’s not Covid. My mom had a cold at the tail end of our trip in London, so I’m assuming he got what she had (she had Covid right before our London trip so it’s unlikely she had it again there, and she has tested negative multiple times since she got back). My son tested negative before going to martial arts on Friday afternoon. I’m going to test him again today to manage my own anxiety and then again on Monday before we leave for the KOA. He’ll be devastated to miss the KOA because his best friend is coming for a few days this year. His best friend also just had Covid in June, so hopefully they won’t be too stressed out by my son having a bit of a cold. We shall see… We managed to get through two vacations without Covid ruining things, but who knows how long our luck will last, especially with a new variant making the rounds (it seems unlikely we got BA.4 or BA.5 back in mid-May but who knows).

My throat has also been twitchy, but I can’t tell if it’s allergies or a cold or psychosomatic. I’m so tired of wondering about every little symptom or hint of a symptom. I’m so tired of paying for rapid tests.

Today I’m buying something off Craigslist and taking the kids to ride their bikes by my work (they’ve barely been on their bikes this year and they want to ride them at the KOA so I’m making them reacquaint themselves with them in a big open space). We’re also grabbing some essentials for the KOA, like sunscreen and Dramamine (for the boat on Clear Lake).

Today I’m also packing us for the KOA. We leave tomorrow (assuming my son and I keep testing negative). The KOA is generally a very low key time. The kids just run around and swim and bike and play together. There isn’t a ton to do, so it’s not very stressful, especially at the beginning of the trip. Next weekend it will be crazier, when all the moms are up there and we spend a day on Clear Lake. But during the week it shouldn’t be too much. I’m very glad that the last two trips are the most low key tips. I need some down time.

{Yes, I know how obnoxious that sounds. I apologize.}

And then Hawaii and then it’s the new school year! Which I’m finally starting to think about! I honestly have hardly thought about work for a full month and it’s been glorious. But suddenly it’s the end of summer and I need to start thinking about it again. The kids start on Wednesday, August 17 and my district starts a week later on the 24th. I was really annoyed when our union voted for that later start date, but Hawaii wouldn’t have been possible if we’d started on the 17th (we get home from Hawaii on the 15th), so I’m having to change my tune on that. I believe my first staff work day is Thursday the 18th, but I’m honestly not sure. I really have not thought about work at all this summer (I had to check our calendar today to be sure I had our official start date right).

I do want to talk more about the London trip soon. Hopefully before we leave on Monday. We shall see.

London Day 8: Terrible Thames Tour + Museum of London

We left Monday and returned Thursday but our trip was only eight full days because of the length of the traveling days (and losing time on the way there). That felt short to me when we bought the tickets but it ended up being an acceptable amount of time. Each day was long and we were zonked by the end of the week. I did feel sad on Wednesday and wished we had a bit more time to be in a city we all enjoyed, but I was also really tired and ready to rest a bit at home. London is also really expensive, especially for four people.

We had planned to take a commuter boat to Greenwich on Wednesday, but earlier in the week we’d seen a Terrible Thames Tour boat on the river, run by the creators of our daughter’s favorite set of series, Horrible Histories (she also loves the Murderous Maths series, Horrible Science series and more from them). We realized we couldn’t pass up an opportunity to experience a tour by these people, so we changed our plans and bought tickets for the Terrible Thames Tour.

Tote we bought our daughter

The tour was great. Very funny and a thoroughly enretraining 45 minutes for both kids and adults. It was a short trip up and down the river but we saw lots of landmarks and learned about them too!

The London Eye
Cleopatra’s needle
The Globe
Parliament
Big Ben (released from its scaffolding!)
The Shard (the tallest building in England)
Panorama on the turn around
Tower Bridge with warship

After the tour we went to the Museum of London, which is actually really cool. It spans prehistoric times to the present, with a big emphasis on the Roman era. The kids really enjoyed it, and they had, by far, the best touristy London stuff at the gift shop (for a reasonable price).

We headed home early for a session of Dungeons and Dragons with my sister and her partner at our AirBnB. We also packed so we could get out of the house by 11am without rushing.

I hope to post some final thoughts on the trip, including the pluses and minuses of traveling with grandparents on a big family trip. I know these posts have just been itinerary and pictures and I apologize for that; it was all I could manage at the time. Now I have a couple days before we leave for the KOA so I hope to publish more.

London Day 7: British Museum + Soufflé Pancakes + Hamley’s + British Library

Our penultimate full day in London was packed full with specific experiences for each member of our family. The British Museum was one of the places on my “must see list” and we finally hit it up on Tuesday. Seeing the Rosetta Stone again was just as impressive as the first time.

We also walked around the Egypt and Greece sections, as our kids know a lot about those histories through the various Rick Riordan series, and some podcasts they love.

We also went to the special exhibit Feminine Power, at our daughter request. It was an excellent collection of art inspired by femininity across culture. We all really enjoyed it.

After the British Museum we went to a spot my husband had flagged for its soufflé pancakes. We had seen pictures online and couldn’t wait to try them ourselves.

Dessert for lunch!

They were just as yummy as we had hoped!

Then we hit up Forbidden Planet, which is the craziest comic book and collectibles store I’ve ever seen. It was totally overwhelming and I felt lucky that we got out of there only spending £20.

At that point my husband and daughter headed to the British Library while my son and I hit up Hamley’s, the giant British toy store. He got his teddy bear a London t-shirt and a stuffed squirrel that we both determined was sufficiently British looking.

We met up with dad and sister at the British Library, which houses the Magna Carta, among other incredible paper relics.

It’s a small collection, but beautifully curated. If I hadn’t been so worn out I would have spent a lot more time there

Jane Austen’ as writing desk!

We ended the day dog sitting for my sister. This was when we realized the dog was never going to stop growling at our kids, who were just heart sick over the fact that the dog they came so far to see didn’t want anything to do with them. It was a bummer way to end a great day. By the time we got back to the AirBnB I was feeling ready to go home.

London Day 6: Hyde Park + V&A Museum + National History Museum

We met my sister, her partner and their dog at Hyde Park on Monday morning. They told us to meet at the “playground at Hyde Park,” and what they meant was the Diana Memorial Playground (very cool) and not Hyde Park Playground (not cool). Getting from the one we were at to the one we were supposed to be at took 30 minutes, and then we went on an hour walk, so it was a big walking day. Luckily Hyde Park is lovely and we have been building our walking stamina on this trip.

Italian Fountains at Hyde Park
They love their flowers in London

My family stayed at the Princess Diana Memorial Fountain to play in the water (some people had swimsuits on in the fountain!) while my parents, sister and I went to lunch. Then we met up at the V&A (Victoria and Albert) Museum, to look at shiny jewelry and other fun stuff.

Jewelry room
Other fun stuff

After the V&A we went to the National History Museum, which has an incredibly impressive facade and front hall.

Natural History Museum facade
National History Museum entry way

We hit up the dinosaur section of the museum, looking for Dippy, who has triumphantly returned, and we finally found him in another part of the museum.

Dippy, the nation’s favorite dinosaur

Finally, my parents took the kids back to the AirBnB while my husband, sister, and friend (from Brighton) had dinner. We ended up taking advantage of the grandparents being on this trip to enjoy two nights on the town and I’m very pleased about it. Both nights were so, so fun.

London Day 5: Run + Chiswick House + Design Museum + BBQ

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After our whirlwind first four days, we promised our kids (mostly our daughter) a low key morning where she wouldn’t be rushed, so we planned less on Sunday to give them both a break.

And during that break, I went for a run. I wasn’t sure I’d find a good route but I did and it was lovely.

First glimpse of the Thames on my run
Chiswick Bridge

Once home I finished some laundry and we headed out to Chiswick House, which is the biggest tourist attraction in our AirBnB’s neighborhood in West London.

Chiswick House

All the adult s agreed the house and gardens were much nicer than we had expected. We especially enjoyed the audio tour.

The house was really impressive, but the gardens were what really blew us away.

The greenhouse

We picnicked under a tree for lunch and then headed to the Design Museum which had a special exhibit we knew our daughter would love.

The Design Museum

The Design Museum was small, but very cool. We didn’t spend much time in the general area, but we really liked what we saw.

Then we split up, my husband and son went to an exhibit on the design of the “beautiful game” (football) and my daughter and I went to an exhibit on ASMR.

My daughter has been somewhat obsessed with ASMR for a while now, and she was overwhelmed by the exhibit. She totally loved it.

A part where you lay on stuff and watch and listen to things 😉

I have to admit I haven’t really understood the ASMR movement but now I get it, at least a little. We may even get our daughter a microphone so she can experiment herself.

We ended the day at my sister’s house for a BBQ with her friends, which went over way better than anyone was expecting. The kids hung out happily for four hours and we all enjoyed yummy food.

The only issue was the dog, who still, at the posting of this (our penultimate day) will not approach our children without growling or barking. She just doesn’t want to have anything to do with them, which is breaking their hearts because being with her was one of the big reasons they wanted to come here. We’re all managing our disappointment about it in our own ways, but it’s hard.

But at the BBQ we still had hope she’d learn to like them. And it was fun to be around her.

London Days 3 + 4: Tower of London and Brighton

On Thursday night, after Harry Potter, my parents kept the kids and my husband and I went out to dinner with my sister and her partner for my husband’s birthday. It was an awesome night, but a late one, and Friday morning was rough. We got up late and had a lot to do (like packing for just one night in Brighton to see my good friend of 25(!!!) years). We somehow made it to the Tower of London for our 11am reservation, but it was close.

This is my fifth time visiting London but I’d never been to the Rower of London before. It’s the large fortress on the Thames where the monarchy used to hold power (and torture and imprison and execute people). Also the Crown Jewels are there.

The lines for the Crown Jewels were long but I have to say it was worth it. They were very beautiful. (So many diamonds! So sparkly!) You weren’t supposed to take picture of them though so I can’t share them here. Boo.

Tower of London with pretty flowers!

There were also tons of weapons on display. Those we could take picture of, and I especially enjoyed the steam punky attempts to combine pistols with other weapons like axes and hammers.

A pistol axe?!

Outside of the Tower of London we took pictures with the Tower Bridge (and eventually crossed it) but we didn’t go up inside.

Tower Bridge

We ate lunch at this amazing open market with tons of different kinds of food. I had curry and my kids had fish and chips. I also caught this great shot of the juxtaposition between old and new.

The Shard and a church

After our very late lunch we walked around some more before catching a train to Brighton, where we met up with a friend I’ve known since my freshman year of college (and his family). We walked around town before settling on a spot to eat.

Dancers in the street

We headed to bed early in Brighton because we were still a little wrecked from my husband’s birthday dinner the night before. The days are long and packed and honestly I don’t think we could handle more than the eight full days we have planned.

Our day in Brighton was very low key. We walked around with our friends, marveling at how many people there were in Brighton on a summer weekend. We played games at the pier and threw rocks into the ocean and bought some shirts at the shops. Then we had a late lunch and headed back to the train. We got home later than we intended and crashed for the night.

Unfortunately all the pictures I took in Brighton have people in them so I can’t post them. Sorry!